2018 is the Year of Having it All

EXECUTIVE DECISION!

“Executive decision” is something my wife or I will say to the other when we need to make important decisions for the family and don’t want to discuss the decision being made. Some good examples of popular executive decisions in our home:

  • Throwing away old food in the fridge
  • Moving the laundry from the bed to the floor, so to say that laundry WILL NOT be folded tonight!
  • Taking the backway to Polaris instead of the freeway because ain’t nobody got time for 270 traffic

As stated in the title of this post, I am executive decision’ing 2018 as “The Year of Having it All.” I wrote about it in the past, but we’ve also had 2015: The Year of Travel and 2016: The Year of Yes (read about those here). I don’t know that we ever settled on 2017 being the year of anything, although you might say we set some things in motion that will lead to 2018 being a big year.

Hint: baby… I was referencing having a baby later this month.

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So what does “The Year of Having it All” mean to me? It means having a baby and still having a social life. It means learning to be a great dad, while still training for races. It means working on my side hustles and turning them into legitimate businesses, and figuring out what I need to do to take that next step professionally.

I also think having it all means not having to sacrifice some of the things that are important to our family, like cooking healthy meals, loving on our dog and reminding him that he’s the best, and having a home that isn’t overrun by kid’s toys. I get that there will be some things that will change and will need to change, but I don’t think that having a baby means we have to hire Little Tikes as our interior designer.

Having it all also means having goals that go beyond raising an infant (although that does happen to be Goal #1). But I also want to run a sub-20:00 minute 5k this year. I want to qualify for OCRWC and make that trip with my family. I want to add muscle without adding pounds. I want to run six OCR races, a half-marathon, a few trail runs, and a 5k or two.

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I also want to make sure my wife is taken care of and gets whatever she wants for having her 2017 be the unofficial year of being pregnant. I know there are women who have had harder pregnancies, but hers has not been easy and I want to make sure that any hour she needs to sleep, or any afternoon she needs to get her nails done or hair done, she doesn’t have to ask. I want her to feel like herself again, all while being the best mom, and have her own goals.

The Year of Having it All is for both of us, and I know she has a lot of big things too in 2018.

So, executive decision, 2018: The Year of Having it All has begun! Cheer to health, happiness, and having everything you work hard enough for this year!

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I’m going to be a Dad

I’m going to be a dad. I don’t know if that’s sunk in yet or not. I see my wife getting bigger (sorry, babe, but it was bound to happen sooner or later — she still looks great by the way), but I don’t know if the fact that all the planning and talking about it has really sunk in yet. Kelly and I used to look at our dog and say, “isn’t it crazy we are responsible for this living thing?” Then we’d pet him on the head and turn on some music for him and go out to dinner for a few hours. I haven’t finished the book yet, but I’m pretty sure there’s a chapter about not being able to put some baby food in a bowl and assuring yourself that when baby gets hungry enough, he’ll eat.

I’m excited for everything about being a dad, and I think I need to tell my wife that more. Sometimes, this blog is my way of telling her things that I’m not good at telling her in the moment; something I need to work on (and solid piece of advice for baby R when he gets a little older). But I am excited for sleepless nights, diapers, jogging with baby R in the stroller and talking to him about the Lions or my last race, or his next race (Baby Spartan Race — is that a thing yet?). I don’t think it’s going to be easy, but I think Kelly and I are equipped to handle it.

I’m excited about what being a dad will mean to my marriage. I think you hear a lot about people that aren’t in a good place, get pregnant, and hope that it “fixes” whatever is broken in their marriage. Being able to bring a baby into a home that is solid will amplify the good things we already have going for us — mostly involving making each other laugh by doing dog (and soon to be baby) voices about the comings and goings of day-to-day living. I am excited about bringing a child into our family because I think our family rocks. I am excited about making myself into the kind of dad I want my son growing up and looking up to. I’m excited about being seen as a dad by other people. I don’t know if that is a vanity play or not, but I’m really proud that I’m going to be a dad.

Being a dad makes me proud of myself.

I’m also excited about being a dad at different stages of Baby R’s life. I love that I will get to teach him things I really don’t know a lot about, but he’ll believe that I do because I’m his dad (lost Kelly a long time ago on this matter). I’m excited to teach him things I do know, and learn new things about myself. I’m excited to figure out the most important things and make sure Baby R grows up knowing that. I’m excited to be a coach, to golf with him someday, and to beat him at every sport for at least 12 years.

So, bring on the dadbod, sleepless nights, coordinating outfits, bottle bags, and trying to get a run in when Baby R is sleeping. Bring on the next chapter and here’s to it being the best one yet!